Coping With Christmas

Coping With Christmas

 

The holiday season is upon us and it’s time again to take part in fun filled festivities, eat turkey, fill our houses with lights and decorations and eagerly listen for the sound of sleigh bells announcing the arrival of Santa with exciting presents. Family and friends gather and share joy and happiness to one and all and we make our way to the atmospheric carol service where we celebrate in the Christian heritage of this wonderful time of year. The lights and commotion all get too much, the noise is deafening, the chores and pressure to all encompassing and all routine is destroyed…

The excitement and expectations of a perfect Christmas can be a challenge for those affected by autism. For me there are parts of the holiday season I really love, but others that are a minefield. So what can we do to make Christmas ho ho ho, rather than ho ho NO!?

In this post I’d like to share with you a few strategies I have found helpful. I hope that if you or your child struggles over Christmas then you might find some of these helpful and enjoy reading this post. You may have tips that you have found helpful to you that I’ve not thought of so please feel welcome to add these to the comments section.

Make a plan

Regardless of how or if we celebrate Christmas ourselves, it is likely that it will have an impact on our usual routines. Work schedules are likely to change (in my case my office closes for a whole two weeks), schools break, shops have different opening hours, clubs and support networks often break. As someone who lives by my routines this is challenging so I try and plan ahead as much as possible.

What is key for me is plotting out what is happening and when in a format that’s very easy to see. I use a page per day diary but in the past have used a wall chart. Whatever works best for you is fine as we all have our own ways of making sense of information.

Being able to clearly see where my commitments are in advance helps me to adjust to changes in routine over the holidays.

Set a budget

Christmas is an expensive time. Everything from stocking up the fridge with goodies, buying presents for loved ones, travelling to see family, parties and social commitments can send the budget sky-high.

It is a good idea to set a clear budget before wild spending on credit. How much do you want to spend on each person’s presents etc, can you afford to attend both of the Christmas parties you’ve been invited to? Planning ahead can save the stressful and expensive bill from arriving come the New Year.

Make your OWN traditions

It is often easy to get weighed down with following what you think you ‘should’ be doing over Christmas. Just because you ‘always’ go to that Christmas market doesn’t mean you ‘have to’ do it. Christmas can work around you and your needs and it is fun making your own traditions tailored to you. Get creative and think of little things you can do that might make the season all the more fun and personal for you and your family.

Growing up we had some great little traditions in our household. My favourite was on Christmas Eve. I had a Christmas Pillowcase that needed to be left on my bed for the elves to collect. I’d take great care decorating it and leave it out ready. Without fail it would vanish and in the morning it would have reappeared in the lounge filled with presents. I knew from an early age that it was most likely my parents removing the pillow case, but they insisted they wouldn’t confess to anything until I was 18. Each year my attempts to catch them in the act got more and more elaborate, but they always managed to remove the case without me catching them. This game of cat and mouse actually served a really good role at distracting me and keeping me occupied while mum set about the laborious task of preparing the meal for the following day and getting the house ready for visitors.

What traditions do you have?

Make decorating an event

As someone who doesn’t like change, returning home to find a random tree in the lounge would be a bit much for me! In our house decorating was a family event. We would all be involved in placing the decorations and I often spent time making decorations for the tree. This involvement helped me adjust to the changes and helped build excitement rather than fear of the commotion of the season.

My favourite activity was always building the gingerbread house and nativity scene we would place in the shrank. It had a full set of sugar figurines. Every year I pleaded with mum to let me eat one. I was never allowed, but they had been in use since the 70s so may not have been that tasty!

Get some exercise

With the cold days and long dark nights it can be very easy to spend the whole holiday wrapped up warm inside. I always find it helpful to get exercise and importantly, fresh air. Perhaps you can head out on a walk around the neighbourhood to see the Christmas lights, go hunting for pine cones to get crafty and turn into decorations or avoid the traffic by walking to the shops.

Set aside a quiet sanctuary

With all the noise and excitement I find it very helpful to set aside a quiet place to escape to if it all gets too much. Being able to take a time out from the celebrations to relax and recharge can help so much and is something I’d recommend to anyone.

Know your socialising limits

Christmas is one of the times of the year when the much sought after social invites come in thick and fast. Work Christmas Parties, Family Gatherings, Clubs Christmas Socials…

It is easy to say yes to everything and for me I can get overwhelmed faster than I realise. I try and set limits to how much I engage in these parties. So often I can get carried along with the flow and find I’ve over done it and I’m at capacity. There is a fine line between having a great evening and becoming exhausted and having a bad time. Know your limits and hopefully you’ll have a great time.

Take time to get back into routines after Christmas

 

Whatever your feelings about Christmas, It’s all over fast and everything returns to normal. If there have been major disruptions to your routine it’s good to return to your usual routine as smoothly as possible. Try and plan ahead if you can. For example if you need to get up for work or school early then give yourself a few fays to readjust rather than suddenly switching your wake up call from 11am to 7am.

I hope you've found this of interest. I'd love to hear what you enjoy most about Christmas and how you overcome the challenges you may find with this time of year. Feel free to let me know via the comments or Facebook. Merry Christmas to you all!

10 Steps to Independence

‘Mum, can you do my ironing for me please?’

I put the phone down feeling frustrated and annoyed again that I’m still having to make these calls despite being in my 30s. I’d always assumed that by my 30s I’d be living a fully independent life. This didn’t include asking my Mum to help me iron! The reality has been different; and although I can enjoy periods of time in self-sufficient tranquillity, there are also extended times where very basic tasks require the intervention and support of others. The pressures and strain that autism brings can become overwhelming and the feeling of loss of independence can become despairing and frustrating, so what can we do to stand on our own two feet and stay on top?

I’ve by no means got this sussed and it’s a continuous learning curve but in this week’s blog I wanted to share 10 approaches that have helped me maintain to live a fulfilling life so far. These are approaches that have worked well for me but as we are all different they may or may not be of use to you. I’d love to hear any tips or techniques that have helped you, please feel free to share your thoughts or questions in the comments or message me. I’ll expand on each one in future blogs.

1: Keep a Diary

If this list was limited to just one item it would be this, my diary. Visually seeing what I’m doing and when is the foundation to my independence. I use a colour coded system to help balance my time.

Red = Important appointments (work, medical appointments etc, these have fixed times that if I can’t make require me to lot someone know)

Orange = Chores (Housework, personal admin, shopping etc, these need to be done but don’t have a fixed time)

Green = Down time (Personal time to relax or unwind, hobbies etc)

Blue = Social time (time with friends, clubs or socialising)

Using colour I can immediately see if I’m doing too much and helps me plan my time.

2: Get to Know Yourself

‘But I do know myself!’ I hear you cry! Yes you do, but for me the start point in building any form of independence is to really understand and know myself. It’s all very well if my parents or friends can spot the signs that I am getting frustrated, angry, tired, but can I?

Developing a self awareness is an ongoing and lengthy process but one that has really helped me. Simply analysing situations after they’ve happened and learning to recognise the emotions and behaviours in advance is a great tool to have in managing things.

As an example I’ve learned that in the build up to a meltdown I feel tired, my attention ‘flickers’, I feel nauseous, My thought process becomes very pessimistic. Recognising these signs gives me a much larger head start in keeping myself safe and prepared.

Questions you could ask yourself are what makes you relaxed? What makes you angry? What time of day am I most alert?

3: Build a Support Network

For me independence doesn’t mean becoming a lone wolf, it means taking responsibility for knowing when and where to ask for help. Building a support network is key to this.

For many years I’d start to shutdown and just wildly cry out for help in any direction and just get frustrated. At the time I was a church-goer and the expectation was that someone / anyone there would step in. They didn’t, I’d get upset, the cycle would continue. A more structured approach was needed. I’ve created a list for this very purpose. It helps me to recognise who can appropriately help with certain tasks. A home care charity and my parents can step in and help with domestic tasks and cooking (back to the ironing, because of my sensory issues the hissing of the iron triggers meltdown, having a meltdown with a hot iron isn’t wise!), friends are identified who can provide accommodation and moral support etc.

4: Prioritise

It’s easy to become confused by the daily tasks required to live independently, piles of bills, housework, care and therapy regimes, cooking, shopping, something’s broken, laundry…..

When faced with too much information and detail my brain simply shuts down. It becomes important to prioritise and tackle one thing at a time. I use a to-do-list app on my phone but a list on paper or a whiteboard work just as well.

Identify what needs doing and decide what to tackle first. Perhaps someone you’ve identified in your support network can help with some of the tasks?

5: Balance Your Time

When faced with pressing chores and commitments it is easy to over work and burn out. I’m much more susceptible to catastrophic meltdowns and shutdowns when I’m tired or over busy so planning time to sit and rest is just as important as planning time to vacuum the lounge. Planning a good mix of productive time, social time and relaxing time is important. I use the visual diary (point 1) and priorities (point 4) to help and self awareness (point 2) helps guide me as to how much capacity I have.

6: Keep a Strict Budget

Being in control of my finances has been one of the most useful skills I’ve learned in helping maintain my independence. Although it would be nice to have millions I don’t and have to make do on a tight budget. To make sure I stay in the green as much as possible I use a spreadsheet to track my bills and expenses and carefully calculate the amount of money available each month.

A set amount is put aside to cover direct debits for bills (rent, water rates, electric etc)

For annual bills (TV licence, Insurances etc) I divide the figure by twelve and save up each month

For spending money I take a set amount out and use cash. This helps me see how much money is available instead of blindly spending on card. This way it is easier to decide whether that expensive sandwich for lunch or new PlayStation game is really affordable…

7: Practice and Learn Social Skills

Knowing I don’t come complete with the instinctive social abilities of my peers doesn’t remove my need to have them, nor does it excuse my lack of them. One thing that I do have is an ability to learn.

Observing the way others interact and communicate and then mimicking the styles and flows of the conversation helps me to learn and then naturally communicate. The internet is also a great tool to use. Typing searches like, ‘How to start a conversation’, ‘How to make friends’ etc brings up a wealth of information.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes and be persistent. Like all skills it takes time and patience. I found travelling to be a great way to meet new people and use practice my social skills. A few nights in a hostel brings a steady stream of new test subjects to experiment on and if it all goes wrong then who cares? I’m never going to see them again and just being foreign excuses me of any faux-pas I make.

If the first night I am too forward and talk too much at people, putting them off then the second night I can try calming down and using a different approach.

At home try your skills at the supermarket, café, anywhere really. It’s not always easy or comfortable but seek out opportunities to engage in conversation. The more you do it the more natural it becomes.

8: Use Flowcharts and Scripts

I’m very visual and flowcharts work well for me. If I can change the format of information to help me out then I will. Creating quick help guides can be a real asset when I’m beginning to struggle. For example simple flow charts or pictorial guides to show me how to prepare a simple meal, clean the kitchen, manage my medication etc can help me manage myself when I have a meltdown or shutdown. More complicated tasks like maintaining the car or arranging an insurance can be templated out so I can self guide myself through these rather than having to get help in.

Scripts are important as when I start to go through meltdown or shutdown cycles I fast loose the ability to speak coherently or become virtually non verbal. Simple scripts I can send by text or email can be used in situations like letting my boss know I need a day off work or letting my support worker know I need help.

I can also use scripts to help prompt me with how to appropriately make, change or cancel plans.

Have a think about what you struggle to communicate, perhaps a scripted response or flowchart may help you?

9: Keep a Journal or Blog

One of the biggest challenges I find in being able to focus and be productive is the incessant noise and thoughts in my head. Having autism makes it hard to process and filter information, I find one way that helps me do this is to write it down. This can be by brainstorming or journaling, on paper or on computer, it doesn’t matter as long as it’s out of my head. Not everyone finds this helpful but for me I find this therapeutic. As a quirk I was so conscious to keep my random scribbling private I write them in Cyrillic. This in turn acts as a great pub trick to break the ice when meeting new friends, ‘Here’s your name in Russian…’ I say while writing it down on a coaster.

10: Stay Flexible, Learn and Adapt

Finally we come back to a bit more self analysis. Rigidity and inflexibility come hand in hand with autism but this is something that I work hard to break.

As I try an new system, approach or technique I try and regularly adapt and reflect on if it’s working for me and if it can be improved.

As I develop and improve myself; so do the systems. The visual diary started as an A4 week per page, I then found A5 day per page better for me. I used to benefit from lots of social time, now I prefer less. You might like the idea of trying a visual diary for yourself but find it better to use a wall planner with sticky labels. It’s whatever works for you.

Don’t be afraid to try things, experiment, learn when things don’t work so well and learn from your successes.

Please feel free to share this post and add to your comments things you have found helpful.

Helping Work to Work For You - 10 Reasonable Adjustments

10 Reasonable Adjustments – Helping Work to Work For You

Employment can often feel like a daunting mountain to scale and sometimes the barriers presented to an autistic person can make the world of work seem unachievable. So often just a small and simple adjustment can help no end and help you flourish.

In last week’s blog I shared my own personal story of employment. This week I wanted to share some of the adjustments that have helped me along the way. It is important to remember that in this post I am sharing my own personal experiences and what has worked for me might not necessarily work for you, but I do hope that it can give you some ideas to think about. I work in an office environment so these adjustments reflect that, but many could be used in other settings equally as well.

So what is a ‘reasonable adjustment’? I asked this question to the Occupational Health Assessor I had been sent to see.

She explained that it is an agreed (formally or informally) set of changes that can be implemented by your employers to help you achieve your best in your job. They can be flexible to help you through a difficult patch or put in place as a long term option. Each workplace will have different requirements so it’s best to be able to discuss with your management or careers advisor on what can be offered.

But what’s ‘Reasonable’ and ‘Unreasonable’?

My advisor suggested that enlisting a circus to cheer me up would be unreasonable, but a clown assigned to my office might be reasonable.

I understand what she was trying to convey with this answer, but having a clown would freak me out and not be of any use. I’m also not sure which of my colleagues would be best suited to this task….

So on to some ideas that have been more realistic….

1: Flexible Hours

Flexible working hours has been one the most useful tools available to me in assisting my employment. In essence it works by allowing me the flexibility to choose my hours of work rather than having a fixed and rigid shift pattern. This obviously has boundaries (a window of time to start and end the day in, communicate with my management my projected working times, complete my contracted hours over a set period etc) but even small amounts of flexibility are game changers.

In a previous job that didn’t allow for flexible hours I encountered a situation classic of how my condition can effect things. The drive into work was stressful and a number of delays meant that I arrived at the office 3 minutes late. I was already feeling overloaded by the disrupted commute but the reprimand for being late resulted in a meltdown so severe I was signed off sick by the doctor. The result – stress and loss of money for me and a loss of an employee for a week for the company – a lot for the sake of a 3 minute delay!

With flexible working this situation wouldn’t have even caused a ripple – I would have allowed an extra few minutes to calm down and made up the lost time later in the week. A win for both myself and the company.

2: Home Working

Another option that has helped me in the past is the ability to work from home. For me an occasional day working from laptop or doing an online course can help me still be productive on the days when I’m not well enough to drive or have awkwardly timed medical appointments. In my job it is limited what I can do from home, but perhaps in yours this would be a great option to explore?

3: Time Outs

This is another adaptation that has been the difference between a productive day and complete fail for me. The ability to get up and take a break. This obviously has to be kept within constraints – Clearly I should tell someone that I need a break first and taking a 10 minute break every 10 minutes would be ridiculous so it must be kept reasonable.

The practical application of this is times I feel I’m getting overloaded or approaching meltdown. Taking myself away for a few minutes to have a glass of water, walk around the building or simply sit in a quiet room allows me to be able to calm things down and make a rational decision how to proceed. I use this flexibility to take regular breaks between tasks to focus on the next task to be completed and helps balance my day.

4: Increased Sickness Trigger Points

One of the implications of living with a disability is that I unfortunately have more than my fair share of days off sick. As well as the direct autism related issues (meltdowns, tiredness, overload, depression, anxiety etc) that can render a day unmanageable there is also another factor, lower immunity. All of the negative effects that autism can bring as well as many of the medication can make me more susceptible to usual mild health concerns.

Most employers have a set trigger point relating to sickness absence and exceeding the number of sick days allowed can trigger disciplinary action. As it is recognised I potentially will exceed this I have an increased trigger point.

5: Time Allowances for Medical Appointments

A frustration of being in full time employment is the absence virtually any support during the evenings. I sometimes need to leave work early in order to attend hospital appointments, care appointments or therapy. Even the support groups happen during daytime hours, the nearest to me that meets in the evenings is 50 miles away. My employers have allowed the flexibility to attend these appointments. Hopefully as services improve there will be more options for evening support. For now the messages from the support providers are ‘we’ll help you become employable’ and their actions say ‘We won’t provide help accessible to the employed.’ This remains an ongoing frustration.

6: Mentorship

Mentorship is something that I have tended to source myself informally, although there are options to arrange this more formally. Mentorship provides a point of contact who can guide and advise on issues relating to employment. I’ve got a good working relationship with a number of colleagues and line management and use this as mentorship. If I don’t understand something or want advice on how to respond or deal with a situation then this is where I go for advice. When changing jobs I have used the union for mentorship on approaching employers and making applications. Whether you do this formally, informally or both, this is something that can be immensely helpful.

7: Advocacy

Very often I come across as being a very confident and articulate when I speak so it can come as a surprise that I often require an advocate. An advocate is someone who I have allowed to speak on my behalf. At times, especially when recovering from a meltdown or sensory overload, I need someone to act on my behalf in making arrangements and decisions. For me it tends to fall on my assigned support worker or my parents. It does embarrass me no end having to delegate this, but having established this with my employers removes the immediate embarrassment of having to explain why as an adult I got my dad to phone in sick for me. In a previous position I was required to only speak for myself (I think this is legally questionable) but luckily since I’ve been able to name individuals who can speak on my behalf should I need them to.

8: Communication Filtering

This is a long way of saying, ‘give me that info in a different way.’ Some people are visual, some prefer words, some like emails, some like the phone……

Too much information in different formats confuses me and causes an overload. I’m visual and need things written down. To some degree I can adjust this myself. I always have a notepad with me and write down instructions and if I can I will ask the person to email me the details of the task. This rarely causes anyone to even raise an eyebrow. In a past job a system was put in place where all jobs coming my way were filtered via my line manager who’d re-write them into a format I understood. At the time this was a huge help but in my current job isn’t needed. This is a good example of how adaptations can vary over time.

The telephone is a particular one to note. I find using the telephone particularly difficult for both communication and sensory reasons. In previous jobs I’ve been able to put in place adaptations ranging from screening calls using an answer phone to being taken off the phones altogether. In my current post this isn’t suitable and the phone is central to a lot of my work. I’ve had to find ways around these difficulties and it currently doesn’t cause too many problems (on the surface at least!). This shows how sometimes full adjustments just aren’t suitable and you have to make efforts to manage the difficulty in other ways. I have scripted out texts to remind me what to say on the phone and plan calls before making them as I know this helps me.

9: Office Plan Review

Something often overlooked, but very important, is the layout of the office. Slight changes to my desk or even location in the office can create huge benefits. As I am visual and have difficulty processing sound I find it better to face in towards my colleagues and the door. This way I can see if someone wants to talk to me and helps me become part of the team. If the office becomes a bit noisy I have the option to move to a quieter desk for a short while to help me concentrate on my tasks. Perhaps there are adjustments like this that may benefit you?

10: Involvement of External Agencies

Numerous organisations and charities offer various means of supporting you in work. This may be by coaching you, speaking with your managers or advising of more formalised changes. It is always worth looking around and seeing if there are any services near you who can assist you in being successful in your job.

I hope in this post I have shown that sometimes very small adjustments can have a very positive impact for both you and your employers. I’d be very interested to hear your comments on what adaptations have been successful for you in your line of work or what you feel might help you in finding a job. I will be covering this topic in future posts and if you have found this of interest then please feel free to share.

Next time on Steve's Aspie Adventures:

My next post will be in two weeks time where I will look at the subject of putting our difficulties into perspective and asking this question:

• Does recognising that others may be in a worse situation than you act as a helpful or unhelpful viewpoint?

Let me know what you think... 

8 Summer Survival Tips

Summer is a time of year I love. The sun, the beach, getting outdoors, BBQs, all great fun, but for many this is one of the most challenging times of the year. For us aspies change is a big deal, but someone forgot to tell Mother Nature and she's decided it's time to heat the Northern Hemisphere up again for another few months...

Schools close down, my regular support networks go into 'summer mode' - regular meetings stop and sensory issues take on a whole new dimension.

Growing up I found school so traumatic that the prospect of 6 weeks off excited me no end, but I'm sure my parents dreaded this! Even though I enjoy summer I still get affected by the disruption.

In this post I'd like to share the top 8 things I've found that have helped me make the most of the summer months. I hope you enjoy reading this and if this is an area you or your child struggles with then I do hope it is helpful or gives some ideas you might be able to try.

1.  Make a plan

BBQ invites, pool party, summer club, family visits, friends out of town, is quiz night still happening? What's going on?!

How do I co-ordinate the ad-hoc randomness that is summer? I plan. I plan everything. Neat, orderly and visual is how I roll, so for me making sense of summer involves a plan too.

I have both a wall planner to plot my weekly schedule and a page a day diary to track what I intend to do. It's colour coded and very visual. I can instantly see what is and more importantly what isn't happening. Now I work full time it is far easier to keep routines going but over my school days having a visual chart made it easier to see what was happening. 1 week at home, 1 week at Granddad's, 1 week back home etc. It may sound overkill to plan in such detail, but a simple change in my regular routine can cause me huge confusion if I'm not careful. If I'm used to attending club on a Wednesday evening but it's not on during August, then I default to being confused every Wednesday in August. It's far easier to plan advance what I'll do during that time so I don't go into a spin over it later.

2.  Have a sleep routine

I don't sleep well EVER. Summer is worse. I barely sleep AT ALL! OK, so this may be an exaggeration but tiredness features very large in summer for me. My sensory issues mean I struggle with the heat, the light and the sound. If it's too hot, I won't sleep, if it's too bright I won't sleep, if it's too loud... you get the picture.

So here in the UK heat is a relative thing. I'm too hot today and it's 20C (68F) - I've just had a message from a friend in the USA, it's 40C (106F) there. I should quit my complaining and move to Greenland! It does however mean that I have a very low tolerance to heat when it comes to sleeping, the bedroom must be cool!

This far north the issue of light also causes problems. It gets dark at about 10:30pm and light again at 4am. I have a thick blanket I drape over the blinds to keep the light out, otherwise I'm wide awake very early! Of course this unhelpfully keeps the room nice and toasty.

Noise might not seem a particularly summer issue but here's the problem. In the winter my window is shut and everyone is inside, nice and quiet. In the summer the opposite is true. Saturday night I had the pleasure of listening to a neighbours party roll on until 4am, it wasn't a crazy party, but enough to stop me settling.

I live in a crowded British town, so until I win the lottery and move to an isolated cottage in Svalbard I have to prepare for sleep in advance. Making sure to keep the room cool, earplugs at hand, no caffeine after noon and if all else fails a cup of warm milk and a nice book.

3.  Know your limits

It's so easy to take on too much in the summer. I find it hard to sit indoors when the sun is out. Britain is famous for it's rain, it's true it rains any when and everywhere. If it's sunny it could last an hour or a week, but there's no guarantee. So many times the sun comes out, you plan a beach trip for tomorrow, by then it's cold and rainy. I have a tendency to end up doing too much and forgetting the importance of resting and having days off. I make a point of planning 'Do Nothing' days in my diary to make sure I get to recharge.

4. Keep hydrated

I think everyone gets a bit moody when they're a bit dehydrated, but it's especially important for me as getting a bit moody makes me less likely to spot and deal with meltdowns. Meltdowns can cause my body temperature to soar and have seriously dehydrated myself this way in the past. I have water at hand everywhere I go and make sure I keep drinking regularly even if I don't recognise I need it.

5. Sun screen, sun screen and more sun screen

The lobster look isn't great and we all know the dangers of sunburn. The problem is applying the lotion. I don't like the feel of it and I don't especially like being touched so getting someone to rub it in is a pain. What's more of a pain though is dealing with the sleep problems when I've turned into a 6foot blister on legs. I think the sensory issue of yucky lotion is better than skin cancer. I tell myself each year that I'll learn this issue; I say as I type away with sunburn yet again.

6. Earplugs

Earplugs? Yes earplugs are on my summer survival list. People get loud in summer, windows get opened, music gets played. I want quiet. Easiest solution is to put in earplugs. If I'm out I'll substitute these for headphones. They don't have to be connected to anything, they can simply muffle the noise enough for me to enjoy the beach or park or wherever I am. I think my parents might have liked this approach when I was a child too. Seeing someone with headphones on is a great visual clue that I shouldn't keep talking at them. It might have saved my parents the constant interruptions from me while excitedly showing them my collection of woodlice or broken pottery or whatever I was whittering on about as a child!

7. Get outdoors

Alone or with friends and family, I love to get outdoors. I like to get out all year round but summer offers some great new options. I had lunch today sat by outside and then spend the afternoon reading a book. Very peaceful and relaxing. Go for a walk. Get some fresh air. I find that the exercise and fresh air helps me sleep and lifts my mood. Geocaching is a personal favourite. Fun for adults and children alike. A modern global treasure hunt. In essence it is using multimillion dollar satellites to help you locate hidden Tupperware boxes filled with rubbish toys. Give it a try!

8. Stay in touch

Finally for me it's important to stay in touch. Friends and family who may be away and disruption to routine can leave me feeling isolated. The wonders of the internet allow for easy communication with people around the world. If I recognise I'm getting a bit lonely it's very easy to send a message or text and keep in contact with people who are important to me.

I hope you've found this list of interest. I'd love to hear what you enjoy most about summer and how you overcome the challenges you may find with this time of year. Feel free to let me know via the comments or Facebook. Enjoy your summer!